We make ourselves believe in something and invest all of what we are into it, sometimes it works out, but sometimes it turns out to be a mistake or a total failure. We’ll never know unless we actually are caught up in that situation. Which then makes it a trap – an emotional trap. Because once you’ve fallen, believe me, it is such a struggle to get back to your own stable self again. It’s funny what a single smile can do, or some flowers and chocolates can instantly make you feel you’re in love. It’s unbelievable how small and simple conversations over the phone, or some company when you’re alone, and little unsuspected compliments can make you fall for someone so darn fast. Not to mention how sex and all that intimacy can amazingly play a big part on long-term plans and makes you decide who you want to share your life with. This is not the point where anyone should realize if they are really in love. These things play quite a role, but it takes more than this…
In reality, love isn’t measured by how long you’ve you’ve been with each other. It also isn’t all about being happy and feeling all warm inside all the time. It is not just about the laughter and the good times. Love tests our patience, understanding, strength, tolerance, and capability to communicate well, especially when it is crucially needed. Love is not just caring for one’s own feelings, but taking in consideration how the other person feels as well. Love isn’t all about the good times. Love is also all about the bad times – the endless waiting, dealing with unwanted challenges, misunderstanding each other, becoming weak, sharing intolerable moments, big fights and everyday arguments. It’s okay to have these things, and they’re part of any relationship.
Love is measured best when it is challenged. Fights and misunderstandings happen for a reason so don’t avoid them or feel bad if they happen. They’re there to tell you how strong your relationship is… how well you know each other… how far you would go to make things better again… and how much a person really loves you. They are tests you need to put effort in, and pass with flying colors. Failure to deal with these things, or simply choosing not to, only constitutes a failing relationship. It’s best to be with someone who is not just willing to fight, but is also willing to make things better…someone who knows how to do one of the most important things in any relationship – compromise.
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